SusanGaszczak

Yet another father has been desperately demonstrating his pain from not seeing his child. He has climbed a gantry on the M25 and hung up a banner causing chaos. He is protesting for all fathers who want justice.

But is it the fathers that need the justice? In my opinion it is not, it is the children that deserve the justice.

Children are, mainly, born into families of two consenting adults in a relationship. They love each other enough to want to create a new life together. The child, who is completely innocent in all this, loves both parents unconditionally the way only a child can love.

Then something goes wrong, the relationship breaks down, mum and dad move to different houses. The child still loves both parents, will be confused, angry and upset.

Yet some parents feel they know what is best and withhold the child from their estranged parent, in some cases that is right, but in the majority why can't they let the child make the decision find out for themselves how they feel about their parents.

If the estranged parent walks away, that is tough on the child; the child is most likely to grow up with a huge part of themselves and their self confidence missing because one of the two people who are supposed to love them unconditionally really did not care.

If the custodial parent withholds the child to ‘protect' them, they are making the choice to exclude someone their child loves from their lives. Parents say they do it for love, but really they do it to protect themselves from pain, and in some cases out of malice.

Children should always see their estranged parents where there is not a very good reason or threat to their safety. They were born out of love and parents should be the adults and remember their child loves them both and they both love their children

I know I will always be able to hold my head up high as my children's dads will always get to see them when they want; they speak on the phone every day and we even do family outings together. My children will grow up with respect for us because we love them and they love us.

I will not let them grow up with the whole I have in my heart because my biological father (never my dad) walked away and never looked back. I am lucky my dad (never my father) took over and brought me up, thanks Dad!

Andrew McConnell, Tory Bedford Borough Councillor has decided silly season should get even sillier. On his blog he has set up a poll to vote for Bedfordshire's sexiest politician. Having looked at his page he has a glaring omission - photos of his random selection of politicians.

Lynne Faulkner

Tom Wootton

Susan Gaszczak

Dave Lewis

Judith Cunningham

Frank Branston

Nicky Attenborough

Colleen Atkins

Apu Bagchi

Peter Hand

Christine McHugh

Peter Blaine

Richard Fuller No picture - anyone help? I did google him!

Sylvia Gillard

Madeline Russell

Kay Burley

John Mingay

Bob Elford

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